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In a world that increasingly quantifies success in terms of profits, promotions, likes, followers, or accolades, we risk overlooking one of the most foundational truths of leadership:
Our purpose is not just about what we earn — but about who we serve and how we show up for them.
Sure, we need money to live. Bills don’t pay themselves, and passion alone doesn’t put food on the table. But if survival becomes the destination instead of the starting point, we rob ourselves — and those we lead — of the deeper impact we’re meant to have.
Leadership isn’t a transaction — it’s a transformation. And that transformation begins with the courage to ask, “Who do I serve? And why?”
Going Beyond the Paycheck
It’s easy — tempting, even — to frame our work around financial gain. Many of us were taught to climb ladders and collect titles with the idea that financial security equals success.
But here’s the truth: Money is a byproduct of value, not the source of it.
When we anchor ourselves in material goals alone, we risk cycles of burnout, comparison, and frustration. But when we lead from purpose — when we understand who we serve and why — it changes the energy we bring into every room, conversation, and decision.
Your “why” isn’t just a slogan. It’s the internal compass that guides your behavior, your boundaries, and your bravery. It’s the fuel that keeps you going when no one is clapping, and the mirror that reminds you whether you’re still aligned.
My Personal Turning Point
In 2013, I made a bold decision to leave the private sector.
At the time, I had a good job by all external standards, but something felt incomplete. The work was steady, the paycheck dependable — but the purpose? That was missing.
I didn’t want to spend the rest of my professional life just earning a living.
I wanted my work to matter.
I wanted my efforts to contribute to something bigger than a bottom line.
That journey led me to Jefferson County, Colorado, where I entered the public sector and quickly discovered what I had been missing. Impact. Fulfillment. The feeling that my work was transformational, not transactional.
It reminded me of my time in the military, when the phrase, “People First, Mission Always” wasn’t just a tagline — it was a way of life.
That mindset — of centering people in the pursuit of purpose — has guided me ever since. I was even afforded the opportunity to develop their recruiting philosophy, “More Than a Paycheck.” And I believe they still use it today.
It’s not just about a job. It’s about serving people.
The Difference Between Helping and Serving
Helping and serving are not the same. Helping often centers the helper and our need to fix, save, or solve. Serving centers the one being served and their need to flourish. It asks what is needed, not what we assume is needed.
When we serve, we do so with humility, intention, and accountability. Serving doesn’t mean self-sacrifice to the point of depletion — it means recognizing our influence and using it to empower, uplift, and develop others.
It’s about building authentic relationships to understand hopes, fears, goals, and realities. It’s not about ego or control — it’s about walking alongside others.
Understanding Your Audience—Inside and Out
Whether you’re a nonprofit leader, a public servant, a coach, or an entrepreneur, knowing your audience is non-negotiable. But it goes deeper than demographics.
I’m talking about their lived experiences, challenges, aspirations, and unspoken strengths.
- What keeps them up at night?
- What systems are they navigating?
- What do they need to feel safe, seen, and supported?
- What might they not even know they carry?
This level of care and curiosity takes effort and intentionality. But it also creates trust, which is the currency of influence.
Alignment Begins with Self-Awareness
Leadership development often focuses on skills — but rarely enough on self-awareness. We can’t lead others into clarity if we’re confused about our own motivations. To serve well, we must first be well.
That means doing the inner work to understand:
- What drives us?
- What fears hold us back?
- What values we refuse to compromise on?
- What stories do we tell ourselves about success and worthiness?
When we are aligned with our values, we model integrity. When we are rooted in self-awareness, we show up with authenticity. And when we are clear about who we serve, we design systems that reflect their needs — not just the assumptions of leadership.
Showing Up as Our Best Selves
To serve well, we must show up as our whole selves. That means honoring rest. Practicing boundaries. Cultivating joy. Embracing growth. This isn’t selfish — it’s strategic.
A depleted leader cannot offer wholeness to anyone else.
When we commit to our own healing, reflection, and development, we expand what’s possible for the people we lead.
Money Is a Tool — Not a North Star
Let’s be clear — fair compensation is essential. Leaders who serve others deserve to be supported.
But when money becomes the north star, it disorients our internal compass. We begin to chase metrics instead of meaning. We trade fulfillment for false security. Let money be the fuel — not the mission.
The most impactful leaders are those who remember:
People are the point.
Progress is the point.
Purpose is the point.
The Legacy of Leadership
Leadership is not defined by position or power. It’s defined by presence, purpose, and the courage to serve.
It’s the small moments — when no one is watching — where we decide who we’re becoming. In the end, your title won’t be your legacy — your impact will.
The names you remember. The lives you’ve touched. The people who felt safe, seen, and supported in your presence. That’s the real work. That’s the real wealth.
So I leave you with this:
- Who do you serve?
- Why do you show up?
- And what version of yourself are you bringing into that space?
Because when we know who we serve — and why — we lead with clarity, courage, and contribution.
And that, my friends, is what I aspire to — and what I wish for us all.